I know I haven’t said much about J lately. Well, I haven’t really said much of anything until a couple of days ago when I finally called things off with him and that’s because I’ve spent every moment with him since before Christmas. That’s easy to do when your boyfriend (yes, I called him that) is unemployed. I don’t have much to say but this: he’s a bum. He quit his construction job because he hated it. He quit his fast food job because he hated it. Not only was I paying for his food/drinks if we went out, but he started taking advantage of it.
I cannot support a man. To be honest, I can barely support myself. I’ve been a stay at home mom for 2 years and now, I’m responsible for paying half of my bills (until March when I’m in charge of all of them)! I don’t have that kind of money. Most of you will laugh at this, but all I need is $1800/month to cover EVERYTHING in my budget. I’m pretty frugal, but still, I cannot and will not support a man.
As if that wasn’t bad enough, he seems bipolar. Since the beginning of December when we started seeing each other “officially”, we’ve broken up at least 4 times. That’s every other week. He gets upset and says things he doesn’t mean and then I have moments of strength when I walk away, but we always end up back together. He is my weakness.
I will say this out loud only because I know you’ll hold me accountable, but our relationship was borderline emotionally abusive. Definitely toxic and unhealthy. I finally walked away, but I miss him and think about being in his arms at this time of night. Oh well. I am strong enough to do this.
Right?
-G